Okay, I’m totally blowing my cover here by sharing this tip, but it’s become so useful to the point of being magical that I just have to share. First some background—The Mister does not take kindly to being told what to do–not at home, nor at the office. When this happens, you can literally see him shift into “Whatever you are about to tell me to do, I’m not doing it on sheer principle” mode. Don’t get me wrong—The Mister is a very open-minded fellow—just on his own terms.
That said, I’ve finally tired myself of banging my head against the wall, so I changed my usual openers of “You need to” or even worse “Here’s what needs to happen” to:
“I was thinking about ABC and thought we might XYZ. What are your thoughts?”
The difference in The Mister’s reaction is like night and day. In most cases he’s had a “Sure, baby, whatever you think is best” kind of answer. It’s almost creepy how disarming this approach has been! In my heart of hearts, I was truly interested in The Mister’s thoughts when I used my old approach, I just
assumed he could read my mind and knew exactly what I meant didn’t quite communicate them properly I suppose.
The man is the head, but the woman is the neck. And she can turn the head any way she wants. ~My Big Fat Greek Wedding, 2002
Anyhoo, it’s far from Friday, but today I’m toasting to Finally Getting It After All These Years. Drinks on me! Since we’re on the subject of infusing herbs, thought I’d share these two cool libations crafted by the beautiful minds over at Mountain Rose Herbs.
Chai Spiced Rum
- 1 pint of gold rum
- 2 tbsp Firefly Chai
- 1 pint of gin
- 1 tsp lavender flowers
Have you tried something different lately that lead to amazing results? What took you so long to take a different approach?